It would be nice if every relationship were clear and tidy. If all the lines were sharp and there were no grey areas. The biggest difficulties lie in the overlaps.
Can you be excited and happy for someone you love, when someone else you love, feels offended by the one for whom you want to be excited and happy? If everyone involved is emotionally mature, it's possible. Emotional maturity seldom happens at the same rate for different people, ..... if it happens at all.
It's a struggle for me to stay out of other people's relationships, especially if it appears their "bump" is clearly a misunderstanding and it feels like both parties want the friendship back. I am a "fixer". I find solutions for problems. That's what I'm driven to do, but for the most part I manage to avoid offering to mediate.
If a hiccup in the relationship of two people I love bleeds over into my life, I have less restraint. I want the freedom to maintain/nurture my relationships separate from third party influences. So if my friend expects me to prove my friendship by taking sides or ignoring mean-spirited behavior, I will speak up. I believe that if you search your heart before you speak, say what you need to with all the love you feel, whatever the outcome may be, is what must be.
I've learned to accept that not all relationships are meant to be true and strong, and it's okay to let some go.
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